Wedding planning can crowd out marriage preparation. The venue, budget, and guest list are real work, but they are not the only work.
Engaged couples need conversations that reveal rhythms: prayer, conflict, money, family, intimacy, church, rest, and repair.
Ask rhythm questions
Instead of only asking what each person believes, ask what you will practice together. When will you pray? How will you recover after conflict? What does Sabbath or rest look like in your home?
These questions move faith from intention into a pattern.
Keep the answers visible
Good conversations are easy to forget if they live only in memory. Write down what you are learning and return to it.
That is one reason Bexhearts includes check-ins, prayer, and a couple journal in the same place.