Distance in a relationship rarely announces itself. It accumulates quietly — a stressful month, a skipped conversation, two people being efficient at logistics and absent from each other.
A weekly check-in is the maintenance schedule: fifteen minutes, once a week, before anything is wrong. Rate the week honestly — emotional connection, spiritual connection, communication — then talk about the gaps.
The three questions that matter
What did you appreciate about me this week? What do you want us to grow in? What can I be praying about for you?
The first builds the habit of noticing. The second surfaces drift while it is still small. The third keeps your faith pointed at each other’s real life instead of generalities.
Answer separately, then reveal
There is a particular honesty that only happens when you answer before seeing your partner’s answers. Both write, then both reveal — the comparison becomes a conversation starter instead of a performance.
That reveal mechanic is exactly how check-ins work in Bexhearts: you each submit privately, and the week’s reflections unlock only when you have both shown up.